Sometimes in relationships, we find it is those same characteristics we fall in love with people FOR, that can become those things which we find ourselves MOST irritated by down the road aways. My husband of almost17 years, is no Chatty Cathy...not so much with the talky talky. While-initially this was very attractive to me - more room for me to run my mouth! - after awhile I found myself badgering him because he never talked to me, and actually becoming angry at him for behaving like himself - I mean, how dare he?
Anyway, its taken awhile but I have actually learned to be grateful for my spouses careful consideration of words and direct manner of dialect, have come to admire it really.
My advice to those who have had enough---with whatever their spouse is making them crazy about--- find YOUR peace in it. If my husband would always talk to me on demand, hang on my every word, listen to all my stories- I would never write, I would have no need - I could just spill my guts to him and be done with it all. Instead I have to go through this process, which I gotta admit, I really enjoy. So, I am thankful and truly- still a sucker for the strong, silent type!